Maybe the better question is to ask: Shouldn’t it be hard?
If you’re trying to be better, different, bolder, stronger, cooler, more efficient…
To raise the bar,
To try something you haven’t done before,
To enter the unknown.
Shouldn’t it be difficult?
Shouldn’t it be a little frightening?
Shouldn’t it cause challenge and shake up your understanding of the world?
And are those signals telling you that you are on the right path?
Doing the hard thing in front of you is hard.
If it were easy, there would be no challenge.
It’s okay if you don’t get a job in the field you studied.
It’s okay if you change your mind about your degree.
It’s okay to explore passions and interests in other things.
You’re a human being.
Not a jigsaw piece.
You can adapt.
If there’s anything I learned from working “in the real world”, it’s this:
There are a lot of people out there who are happy doing what they love, and vice versa.
There are a lot of people who are unhappy doing what they hate.
If you’re in a position where you can choose a path you’ll be happy with, then you’re already well off.
So I avoided books like the plague for a long time.
Turns out going back into books was one of the best decisions I’ve made in my 20’s.
The book that kicked it off for me?
This is Marketing by Seth Godin.
I’m forever grateful for that domino.
I was a quiet art kid.
From 2015-2020, I found my confidence when I went to an arts school.
Now I’m 3 years into social media marketing at a fast food restaurant, where I’m feeling at the top of my own game.
If I could go back to build my self confidence earlier,I would do this more often:
Listen to the way you talk about yourself to yourself.
If you don’t like the way you do self-talk, understand why, and change it.
What I say: Nobody cares about the writing I put out
My immediate response: There’s no point in writing something nobody wants to see
The change: Not everyone is supposed to care about what I write about. Actually, the success of my writing will stem from solely one person, which is myself. That’s it. If I can write about stuff that I care about, that’s enough.
Positive self talk is the smallest tweak that has made the largest impact on my self confidence.
First time driving.
First time moving out.
First business venture.
First try at making bread.
First day at a new job.
Antsyness is to be expected.
Not to be confused as a sign to back out.
Are you going to wait till you’re ready before you start reaching towards your goals?
Here’s the thing.
The lie about being ready is that,
you’ll never feel ready.
That’s the tricky part.
It’s hard to convince your own mind that you’re ready to take a leap, because there’s fear involved.
It’s part of the process to feel that fear.
The best thing you can do is to do it anyway.
This is how I felt when preparing for an entirely new workshop on a topic I was passionate about.
(I’m actually still feeling this way because that workshop is happening next Monday and I’m in the midst of finalizing it’s content).
But I’m going to do it.
I’m going to launch the event anyways and see what happens.
Want to join? Here’s the link
If you want something to happen, you have to work for it.
Hustle culture works, but only for a short period of time.
It’s becoming more and more evident that working till you can’t anymore is not a sustainable way to make a living.
Most people can’t work 7 days a week, 14 hours a day, 365 days a year.
Most people don’t like to be on a soulless grind.
The alternative is to be a professional, as per Steven Pressfield’s definition.
Being a professional means you show up to work every day and do what needs to be done.
Being a professional means you create work that fulfills a promise you’ve made to your target audience, because you care.
It’s not about doing as much as you can in the shortest period of time you can afford.
A professional does their work out of passion for the process.
A professional is in it for the long haul.
Hustle culture isn’t going anywhere, but if you want to pursue creative goals I recommend you commit. Turn into a pro.
It’s the end quarter of 2022. If you’re looking to start making content for your personal brand or business, you need to consider the following question.
What is the core reason why you want to start making content?
More times than not, many people start the journey of making content but eventually stop after a few weeks because they burn out.
Nobody liked their posts. Nobody engaged with their content. Just crickets.
Please consider the reason why you want to put yourself on this journey, because 99% of new content creators don’t get traction for a long time.
(Of course luck plays a role, but luck isn’t a consistent winning strategy).
If you’re looking to start making content, I want you to do it for your own self.
No clout, no big lofty numbers to reach.
Just you and your own journey.
There’s a little voice in my head that says, “Do you really have the credentials to say what you’re saying?”
The voice in my head, she doesn’t think I’m qualified to write this.
She doesn’t believe I have the credentials or the audience to be successful.
Time and time again, I have my moments of doubt.
I don’t know everything, but I do have a hunch and it’s this—when we create, we cannot give into the voices of doubt we have in our heads.
Here are 25 bite-sized lessons I’ve learned in my 25 years.
- You can do anything you want
- You can’t *really* do anything you want, but you’d be surprised at the amount you can accomplish while at a young age
- Education is important
- School isn’t everything
- Be grateful of the most basics things you have and are capable of doing. That way, you will have an unparalleled perspective on life
- Always make time for personal creativity. It’s 100% worth pursuing
- Great friends can be hard to come by
- Not everyone has to understand your world through your own lens and opinions
- It is imperative to be smart with your money
- Consistency is a winning strategy
- If you choose to take a path less travelled, you’ll often feel like you’re all alone because most of your friends won’t understand
- Learn to differentiate between your own critic and your intended audience
- Do things you enjoy doing
- Time is precious
- Relationships are important
- Understand that you will have your entire lifespan 3 more times over in front of you
- Doing > Thinking
- Stop stressing over things you cannot control
- Most things just aren’t *that* important. If it were, they would call
- Leading is hard
- Reading is fun
- You can follow your passions, work a full time job, and feel fulfilled at the same time
- The Pareto Principle: 20% of causes generates 80% of outcomes
- The chained elephant—be wary.
- Adults are people too