I used to use shyness as a way out of things growing up. It was easy because most people understood boundaries and shyness made a very effective social barrier.
I used it as a tool to say no.
I never made it into a reason to try; Less pain to continue as is rather than to change the parts.
I realize that since shyness is such a big part of my identity, it would also be okay to use it as a way to be more of myself.
To love it and embrace it, rather than to push it away and be someone I’m not.